Women's Friendships

Results of a study conducted in 2002 at UCLA suggest friendships between women are special. "They shape who we are and who we are yet to be. They soothe our tumultuous inner world, fill the emotional gaps in our marriage, and help us remember who we really are. By the way, they may do even more."

The study went on to reveal that women's friendships can cause hormonal and chemical changes in the body and brain. That's not news to the majority of us. For example, it's a fairly accepted fact that female roommates often get on the same menstrual cycle. However, the study reiterated what most women already know – female companionship is a vitally important aspect in women's lives.

Numerous women admit that they like having women friends. However, all women should be careful to try not to gossip within and about their friendship circles. That is often more easier said that done. Women are wired much differently than men, and enjoy the gift of gab. Gossip can often be a problem in women friendships. It is not uncommon for women tear other's marriages apart that way.

While it is important to have someone to talk too, too many married women gripe about their husband because they need to vent. Wives should keep intimate details of their marriage sacred. Many times when they are complaining about their husbands, the problem is really that the women are not happy with themselves.

Some women even go as far as to prioritize their girlfriends above their spouse. Usually the woman isn't even aware that she will spend more hours on the phone or in person with her female friend than she does with her husband. Perhaps if more time was spent with hubby, less time could be spent griping to the friend.

Not withstanding, women share a unique bond. Some may say that opposites attract when it comes to a spouse, but that is not generally the case with women friendships. Like minded women like to hang out together. Would you rather go shopping with a girlfriend who wants to be at the mall with you, or with your spouse who looks for the nearest chair (or exit), regularly looks at his watch and constantly wants to know if you're done yet?

Whether married or unmarried, women friendships play a vital role in a woman's life. Treat the friendship with care. Do not betray your friend, at any cost. If you are vigilant to ensure it is a give and take relationship, you can plan on having a friend for life.

Sarah Eiden is employed full time by her family (does the laundry ever end?) and the web editor of www.bake-sale-recipes.com